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There was a time when the situations of having the capacity, to watch, the tendency to watch, and becoming addicted to watching porn, was not even on the table.    In times past most many individual purposely avoided, going to x rated bookstore,  in fact many would purposely choose to walk past such places of  business.  

 But with the advent of the internet, porn has now followed them home, and now can easily be found on all of their electronic divices.  
There are now people who have problems with sexual compulsion that never would have had them if it had't been for the Internet.  

Those who view porn normally class themselves as fitting into one of several categories.  Some acknowledge that they have the capacity to watch, and do so on an infrequent basis.   Others acknowledge that they have a tendency to visit porn sights, but don’t make it an all day thing.  There are some who acknowledge that the are addicted to watching porn, to the point of feeling helpless and overwhelmed. 

According to Christ, regardless of which category we place ourselves in, it’s all classed as sin.
27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery:  28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”  Matt 5:27-28. Though the Bible class this as a sin,  the good news is, the Bible also tells us how we can (by God’s help) be delivered.

The Internet has become the newest, most rapidly growing form of sexual acting out for many sex addicts. A lot of sex addicts have added computer sex to their repertoire, as it fills a need for "more, easier and better."

For the cyber-sex addict, increasing amounts of time are spent "surfing," downloading, masturbating, reading information posted on sexual bulletin boards, exchanging sexual information live with others in sexual chat rooms or via computer cameras, or directing their own live sex shows on interactive sites.

The reason cybersex is so addictive boils down to accessibility, control, and excitement.  Sex on line is available on thousand upon thousands of sex-related Internet sites.  This makes it easy to fall into an obsessive pattern of Internet use for sexual gratification.  One can develop a sense of being in complete control of their world with no checks and balances as to what they say or do. With no one to see them a curious person can enter any of thousands of dominance and submission rooms, fetish rooms, bisexual rooms, rooms where homosexuality is on full display, etc. 

This uncensored buffet allows one to pick and choose anything they feel they want.  The Internet just happens to provide many of the things sex addict's seek, all in one place: isolation, secrecy, fantasy material, endless variety, around-the-clock availability, instant accessibility, a rapid means of returning, and low or no cost.   One expert said one of main reasons why inter porn and addiction has sky-rocketed is because of the its three way appeal,  1. Accessibility, 2. Anonymity, 3. Affordability.

Researchers are finding that when people indulge in porn, they release powerful chemicals in their brain and body.   One researcher who has been researching and writing about porn addictions for a number of years, as well as training pastors and counselors on how to deal with it, tells of its intoxicating affect.   

He explained that, when people view porn, "It causes the brain to release what we call endogenous drugs or endogenous chemicals. 'Endogenous' meaning 'produced from within.'

So where cocaine or alcohol seek to mimic the brain's natural chemicals, pornography releases the real deal.  Now suddenly you have a little mouse where you hit a button, and instantly you get this flood of brain chemicals. Many who have gotten involved with porn were not even aware that these chemical reactions were taking place in their bodies, all they know is that viewing porn has an intoxicating affect.

J.l. McGaugh made some very interesting observations concerning why internet porn addiction has such seductive qualities, as we read these observations it’s easy to see why so many are quickly being caught up in this form of sexual addiction.

“The ability to remain anonymous, the freedom to invent your own reality, and the chemical changes that take place in one’s body when viewing pornography makes one vulnerable to turning to the Internet to fulfill his or her sexual desires and fantasies, and it has the potential of turning curious seekers into on-line pornography and/or cybersex addicts.

  It is easy to enter cyberspace porn sites as your imaginary self and live out your fantasies to the fullest, but it is impossible to keep the body’s biological responses to pornography from occurring.  Research shows biochemical and neurological responses in individuals who are emotionally aroused, regardless of the stimuli. 

The adrenal hormone epinephrine is released into the brain, explaining why one can remember pornographic images seen years before.  Chemicals called opioids are released by nerve endings in response to pleasure, and then reinforce the body’s own desire to repeat the process” (J. L. McGaugh, “Preserving the Presence of the Past” American Psychologist, p. 161). 

There was a time when the notion that a person could become a porn addict, was almost unheard of.  But thanks to the advent of the internet, this is no longer the case.    

The truth of the matter is pornography is now wrecking havoc in the lives of many people, on an unpeecidented level.   Not only this, but today more than ever, the viewing of pornography plays a role in sexual addiction, the breaking up of marriages.  It is also greatly contributing to the spiritual downfall of believers. 


There is a certain pattern that those who become addicted to porn tipically fillow.  The pattern proceeds as follows, we view pornography, which seduces us, and causes us to fantasize, which leads to our pursuit of these fantasies, which in most cases gives us temporary pleasure, which leads to bondage, and if not repented of will ends in eternal death. 

With the ever increasing availability of pornography on the internet, a whole new generation of sex addicts are being produced, and in ever increasing numbers.  Sex addiction is characterized by persons using sexual stimulation and release to get a euphoria or high, then needing ever-greater doses. As with other addictions, addicts can suffer problems related to work performance, personal relationships, and the law.

  Many have unwittingly become enslaved to compulsive sexual behavior.  Thus that which initially began as the pursuit of a little sexual pleasure, “just having a little fun” or “satisfying normal urges,” gradually lures men and women deeper and deeper into the mire of bondage. 

God can and will completely deliver an individual, from and and all forms of addiction, but the danger is, the longer we continue, the harder it is and the less willing we become, to obtain deliverence.    The bible warns when we train ourselves to continually do wrong, it gets harder and harder to cease the process,   "Can the Ethiopian change his skin, or the leopard his spots? then may ye also do good, that are accustomed to do evil." Jer 13:23 (1).  

Up until recently it was assumed that excessive porn watching to the point of obsession/addiction, was a male dominated field.  But it is now coming to light that many women are now falling prey.  A Notable example being that of Oghosa Ovienrioba, who did a video on YouTube that went viral.  On this video she tells of her struggle with porn addiction,  Oghosa, who is from London, explains that she was just 14-years-old when her addiction began. 

She said: ‘It was out of curiosity and it was just a simple Google search for me to get hold of an adult movie. ‘When I first watched it, my reaction was shock. But gradually over time, that shock becomes excitement and I would use any porn that I could get my hands on.’ But soon her addiction began to spiral dangerously out of control. Oghosa said: ‘I was watching it so much that I started to get bored by the ‘normal’ soft porn movies.

‘I wasn’t getting the buzz that I felt when I first saw it – in fact I was almost desensitized to that content. ‘I went from watching soft pornography to dodgier stuff to get the kick I needed.’ Her addiction briefly stopped when she was 18 and had a six-month relationship with a boy. But when she started university and found herself single again, the downward spiral of her addiction recommenced.

She said: ‘I was at a university and alone in a new city. I guess it was a trigger and I just went downhill from there. ‘For a period of two to three years, I was watching porn on a daily basis and sometimes masturbating over six times per day. It was all I could think about. ‘I didn’t see people as people anymore – they were just sex objects to me.

‘The simplest things could set me off such as a girl unbuttoning her blouse or a boy taking his top off. Everything made me want more. ‘I would sit in my room alone for hours, with the lights off, watching porn. I felt lonely and ashamed of myself.’ When Oghosa turned 21, she found Christianity and knew it was time to confront her problem.

She posted a YouTube video in February 2014 in which she revealed her porn addiction to the world. She said: ‘When I read some of the comments on that video, it brings a tear to my eye. People have told me how alone they felt with their addiction until they saw my video.’

She explains, ‘Lots of people don’t think girls can suffer a porn addiction but it’s a problem for both sexes. I hope I can help others out there – talking about your problem is the first step.’

In times of stress,  rather than managing the problem or conflict, many are now more and more turning  to porn.  This is in turn causing many to become addicted to this process.   Addiction typically happens gradually. People may start watching porn more frequently and thinking about it more often. Suddenly, it seems, the behaviors and thoughts are difficult to stop.

They may feel depressed or guilty after watching it or masturbating and vow to stop the behaviors but find it too difficult. Thoughts about sex  and porn eventually becomes intrusive and interferes with work and relationships. Some people view it in inappropriate places, such as on the job or in school at church, etc.  

Constantly watching Porn causes the viewer to become  desensitized to “soft” pornography, and they continue to build a tolerance. Eventually, viewers of porn feel the need to view extremely graphic or taboo materials to become aroused. In some cases, they may start to act out the pornographic scenarios or seek sexually deviant experiences with others.

For many within the bonds of marriage, husbands who constantly view porn, in some cases prefer porn to their wives.  They find it much more gratifying to masturbate while watching porn.    In their now pornified mindset,  they prefer sexual fantasy over sexual reality.   Some experts say this is partly because there are no boundaries and no chances of rejection or criticism.

Today, as a direct result of an overexposure to an avalanche of pornography, via the internet (in my opinion)  there has been a dramatic increase in the number of individuals who masturbate, and the frequency in which they masturbate. 

The type of masturbation I speak of is not the type which may be spurned on because a man can’t have sex with his wife.  The type of masturbation we speak of is a type where men struggle to have sex with their wives, prefering to masturbate to the sights and sounds they experiance while viewing porn.   

The Bible identifies 2 basic types of lust that people are tempted by: "lust of the eyes" and "lust of the flesh" 1st Jn 2:15-17 (1).  Pornography caters to both types by providing visual stimulation that appeals to our "fleshly" desire for sex   It also gives us lifelong fuel for lust through the memories of the sexual images.  With the help of special hormones released in the brain during sexual arousal, porn images are retained in our memories much longer than non-sexual memories. 










Consatntly viewing porn, leads to erectile disfunction for many young men.  According to a report by Marnia Robinson,  “Internet pornography is creating a generation of young men who are hopeless in the bedroom, according to research.  Exposure to lurid images and films in the new media is de-sensitizing so many young people that they are increasingly unable to become excited by ordinary sexual encounters. 

The result is that impotence is no longer a problem associated with middle-aged men of poor health but is afflicting men in the prime of their lives.”

 In this report she called 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunction is a Growing Problem’, Robinson  explains that the loss of libido 30 years early is caused by continuous over-stimulation of dopamine, the neurotransmitter that activates the body's reaction to sexual pleasure, by repeatedly viewing pornography on the internet.

‘A 'paradoxical effect' is created whereby with each new thrill, or 'dopamine spike', the brain loses its ability to respond to dopamine signals, meaning that porn-users demand increasingly extreme experiences to become sexually aroused. Erotic words, pictures, and videos have been around a long while, but the Internet makes possible a never-ending stream of dopamine spikes.   

Today's users can force its release by watching porn in multiple windows, searching endlessly, fast-forwarding to the bits they find hottest, switching to live sex chat, viewing constant novelty, firing up their mirror neurons with video action and cam-2-cam, or escalating to extreme genres and anxiety-producing material. 'It's all free, easy to access, available within seconds, 24 hours a day, seven days a week,' she said.”

But she added: 'In some porn users, the response to dopamine is dropping so low that they can't achieve an erection without constant hits of dopamine via the internet.' Many were initially shocked, she said, when they discovered their sensitivity was declining 'toward normal sex’.  When they try to have actual intercourse and cannot, they understandably panic,'Robinson said.

'Most men are astonished to learn that pornography use can be a source of sexual performance problems.   'Instead, many are becoming convinced that erectile dysfunction at 20-something is normal,' she said.  'They are amazed that heavy porn use can affect them adversely, that no one told them it could affect them.”

Porn creates angry men,   As Gary Thomas explains,  “ First, as one man who struggles in this area described it to me, “Porn is idolatry at its core.  False gods of every kind disappoint.” When we’re disappointed, we get angry. Healthy marital sex leaves us with such a satisfied soul—not just immediately, but in the hours and even days that follow.

Porn does the opposite—it over-promises and under-delivers, and leaves a man depleted and unsatisfied and therefore angry that he’s been “cheated” (even though he’s the one doing the cheating). It’s one of the most confounding spiritual things you’ll ever see—men truly hate the thing they’ve just done, but then they keep going back and doing it.


Second, particularly among spiritually sensitive men who are trying to walk in obedience, porn leads to spiritual anguish.  God, in his kindness, isn’t likely to let a man become numb to the offense of porn unless that man makes himself callous over repeated and unrepentant use. At first, the man feels shame, guilt, remorse, and perhaps even self-loathing.

That’s for a day or so. A little later, Satan comes in to make a bad situation worse, and, as the chief accuser says, “If only your wife were a little more affectionate…” “If only your wife were a little more available…” “If only your wife were a little more understanding…”

What this temptation does is give men something to blame their wives for.  Now, in this twisted version, the spiritual anguish the man feels isn’t his fault for failing, it’s the wife’s fault for setting him up to fail. When a man finds himself getting angry all out of proportion for something the wife did, it might be because he is letting off steam from the spiritual anguish of falling several days before. He hates what he has done and become, and it’s his wife’s fault. Or so he thinks.

A Third reason is really ugly, but it’s the sad truth: your husband is angry because he has learned to enjoy porn more than real sexual intimacy, and when you’re around, he can’t indulge. He has to hide from you, which makes him resent your very presence. This is the true assault on marriage: you become an impediment to his lustful sexual  pursuit, not an expression of it. You’re “standing in the way” and that makes him angry.”

Porn on the net.  Cyberspace is able to project a near perfect sexual environment, which has been described as "a world of plastic surgery, breast implants, and a wonderful airbrush quality to enhance further perfection". 

Pornography projects an image of the female body which rarely exist, and when it does, it doesn't last forever. Whatever our view is of how the perfect woman should look, the internet is able to visually provide her for us. The women shown in porn come from a very narrow part of the wide spectrum of how real women look.  


 They are young, they have no stretch marks, they are thin or pleasantly plump, they don't have a pouch/gut, they have large breasts, and so on and so forth. If this is not our view of the perfect woman, the internet offers many variations on the so called perfect woman, and we can be sure that a whoever she is (in our mind) she's just a click away. 

In addition, these porn stars often wear makeup from head to toe, they are filmed with lighting that hides blemishes, and the pictures may be air brushed or digitally altered after they are taken.  Most women can't even come close to looking like these women look in the nude.  Even if some women/wives can come close to the air brushed, perfect physique look (while they are young),  it's only a matter of time before their bodies (due to the ravages of time and age) will lose much of its physical attractiveness, then what??  


 The Bible speaks about the value of a good wife. It tells us she is more valuable than great sums of money.  She instills confidence in her husband, and is a blessing to the man she marries. Prov. 31:10-12.  In this same chapter, the Bible warns that physical attractiveness in a woman is at times very deceiving (seeming to offer way more than it can give). 

It is also a fleeting commodity. The Bible warns of the deceptive powers of physical beauty, and highlights the other often over looked commodity, which is THE CHARACTER OF THE WOMAN.  According to the Bible, the most enduring quality of a woman is not how she looks, but how she really is (in character and conduct).  The physical beauty of every porn star will fade away in wrinkles and fatty tissue, but the beauty of a good woman remains. Prov. 30:3

Senior lecturer at RMIT Meagan Tyler says porn is increasingly seen as a "textbook" for sex and that's creating problems. "Porn's the thing that everyone's looking at like it's normal, but it's not normal, we know it's not normal, it's completely manufactured," she says.  "[Porn] contains a lot of violence against women. It's terribly racist. If you look at mainstream porn, it's terribly misogynist.

"[Yet] pornography equals sex has become just such a cultural staple.”   Porn is full of people, particularly women, being disrespected, coerced, and physically and verbally abused, and that’s shaping how society thinks and acts.

And Dr Ashton says some people "turn off" their ethics and moral thoughts when they're engaged with porn.

"It may not be something that people are aware that the content that you're actually consuming when you masturbate, and when you're experiencing sexual pleasure, that's actually pairing with a reward in your brain that will reinforce what you're aroused to, and the sort of things that you associate with your sexuality, it actually has quite a profound impact," she says.


1. Porn, compared to real life sex, feels safer for some men. Porn is not so much a sexual experience as it is a fantasy experience where men don’t have to think about the needs of another person, where they don’t have to risk being rejected. In short, porn can make a man feel like a man without requiring him to be one. Men really need to come to terms with this truth about themselves.

2. There’s an important neurological side to this as well. Your husband has built up a habit in his life, trained his brain how to respond sexually. The chemical vasopressin, which is released during sex in a man’s body, bonds a man to his sexual partner, but when he’s using porn, his brain isn’t bonding to a person but to a two-dimensional screen

Over time, as this becomes more ingrained, while he may want sex to turn him on, the neurological ruts in his brain are too deep and he find sex just doesn’t excite him as much as it used to. Some men even experience erectile dysfunction with their wives.  but with porn the plumbing works great.

That’s not because the problem is in the organ. The problem is in the brain. He gets surprised at how outrageous the scenes are. He feels like he’s one of the actors (whether male or female). He gets turned on by the forbidden or taboo sex he sees in the videos.  The sounds (the audio) can be provocative to him.

The mistake many addict make, is at the moment they realize, the negative impact the pursuit of their  addiction is having on them, instead of concluding they need more of God, they tragically conclude the opposite (they need more of the source of their addiction).  Most addicts think if they can get more from the source of their addiction, this will some how fix what’s wrong with them. 

Therefore overcoming the feeling of disappointment, he falls immediately into a deeper depth. Then he explains his feelings in the opposite way: disappointed not because he has already drank too deeply from the cup of sin, but not deeply enough. He acknowledges his disappointment (having not attained real peace and fulfillment), but he fancies that greater boldness in sin will remedy this.

And so comes the turning-point. When the fearful thought is once conceived and admitted, and the heart's demon-like desire has sprung up deeply and systematically to revel in sin's pleasures, then he is lost.  Then "the vain imagination and darkening of a foolish heart "Is added to being "Given over to a reprobate mind." Then the spirit of slumber takes possession of him.

He can no longer discern the real cause of his dissatisfaction and disappointment. Sin intoxicates him more and more.
And the more he indulges the greater his blindness for the consequences. Things lose their forms. The phenomenal take the place of the real. He has eyes, but not for the real and the true; ears, but not for the voice of the eternal Speaker. And so he rushes on from one sin to another; dissatisfied with sin, yet thirsting after more.

The bondage of being in a state of denial-- In coming to God, we must be willing to confess our shortcomings.  "Take words with you, And return to the LORD. Say to Him, “Take away all iniquity; Receive us graciously, For we will offer the sacrifices of our lips."  Hos 14:6. 

 In the words of one addict, in order for him to be delivered he had to first deal with the fact he was in denial of the fact he had a real addiction problem.  In his own words, he said  "Getting through denial took me a good while. I always thought I could control my cravings and conduct. 

I simply could not or would not admit that my the pursuit of gratifying these sexual urges actually controlled me. I had to hit rock bottom and almost lose everything before I was ready to admit that I had a problem.  Not only this I had to get to the point, where I not only sought help from others, but most importantly I asked God to help me.   

All before I was in total flight from reality, with  one of the main main symptoms being, staying in a state of denial.  I agressivly sought to ignore the truth,  when defining the true impact this addiction was having on me, (my well being and my very sanity).  To all who are in the palce, I once was, until God delivered me, I tell you the following.    If you truly know that your  porn watching andsexual conduct, is making you unhappy and is robbing you of a meaningful life,  yet you maintain that it's not all that bad, you are in a state of denial.  And are holding yourself hostage in a situation you do not have to be in. 

Making excuses in order to justify your disappointing and bad sexual misconduct and behavior will keep you trapped in bondage and alienated away from God. Denial of ones state and condition  is A huge symptom of sexual addiction.  This is especially true,  if the excuses you produce do not line up with the facts and are unrealistic. Suffering from both physical and mental discomfort when you seek to end your sexual misconduct, is yet another symptom of addiction and should not be denied or ignored. 

Many times one the biggest hurtles to overcome in being delivered from bondage is the hurtle of denial.  Failure to see that a problem exists can be just as devastating as the addiction. When we are in denial we are blind to the extent, or severity, that the addiction wreaks on our every day life. We fail to see the connection between the addiction and our pain and suffering and we don't seek the help we need. Denial can be very damaging! It impairs our judgment resulting in self-delusion.

Denial prevents us from understanding the implications and consequences associated with our addiction. Some people use denial in every situation in their lives. "I don’t see anything wrong with the my conduct,  it is simply a way I cope with day to life”. This is one form of denial. The sad thing about denial is it can mirror itself. When denial sees denial, it denies it. That's why getting past denial is requires tons of willingness, mountains of open-mindedness, and shiploads of humility.

Most people today don't take the words of Christ seriously, when he sought to stress their need to be delivered.  Nor do most people seriously consider, how radical Christ said we must be willing to be, in participating in our deliverance process. Today there is very obvious lack of the fruits of real deliverance, in the lives of many who claim to be delivered.  This is not how it was when I first got saved, back then I witnessed a dramatic change in the lives of those whom God set free.  

This included the deliverance God wrought in my life.  As we know, when the early church was started on the day of Pentecost, one of the most outstanding characteristic was the dramatic change, the Holy Ghost brought in the lives of those who were saved. The apostle Paul noted the fact that men and women from every background were being dramatically set free from every possible manner of sin.  9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,  10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.  11 And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God. 1st Cor 6:9-11.  

Many today who claim to be in Christ are continuing in many of these items Paul listed here.   Paul went on to say, that the type of deliverance and transformation, which took place in the lives of those who repented and believed on Christ, was not a gradual 12 step withdrawal type of deliverance..  Paul tells us this deliverance was powerful, sudden, dramatic, and complete, Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new, 2nd Cor 5:17.    Some may wonder why many today are not partaking of this powerful deliverance.  

  I believe one of the main problems is a lack of focus on reaching out for true deliverance, and a refusal to accept anything less.  Many today seem to view the process by which they are delivered as being something, which God's expects then to do no more than be spectators of their deliverance process.  If we view our role in the deliverance process as that of a spectator, we will never obtain true deliverance. 

There many today who say they are waiting for God to deliver them.  The truth of the matter God is waiting on them to do the things they must do in order to be delivered.  As we know the word  "repentance" means a change of mind.  Repentance never comes by accident, it is always preceded by a act of the will to turn from certain aspects of ones life. This mindset is a  as a matter of choice.   The mind God placed in us is designed in such a way as to enable us to choose. We can either choose to trust and obey him to the point of dying to our self: or we can choose to reject and ignore him.

For those who truly inwardly repents, God has decreed there is no power anywhere that can stop our deliverance.  But you must choose. This is why the scriptures states that you must allow (LET), the mindset of Christ be in you. 5 Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:  6 Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God:
 7 But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men:  8 And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.  Phil 2:5-8.
To vividly illustrate the fact that God calls for focused efforts on ur part, to aide in our own deliverance,  Christ gave instructions to his listeners which no doubt stunned their senses.  (compare below).

PARTICIPATING IN MY DELIVERANCE BY WAY FOCUSED PARTICIPATION.   For those who come to God for true deliverance, through his greatest call in our lives is to take up the cross of self denial and follow Christ.  To do this we must be willing to apply the word, or should we say, use the sword of the word against our own selves. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:  Ephe 6:17....12 For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. 13 Heb 4:12.  

To use the sword of the word, there are certain things we must be willing to do.  We must first of all have a willingness to HEAR the word, and secondly we must have a willingness to ACCEPT the word, and thirdly we must be willing to APPLY  the word of God to our day the life living. When it came time for Christ to face the hour of extreme temptation, he set the example for us to follow. As we know Christ went into the wilderness, with nothing but the word. And contrary to popular opinion, Christ was not using the word to preach to, teach, or try and convert Satan. 

Christ was using the word to battle against his own flesh. It is written, That man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word of God.   for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve. It is said, Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God.  13 And when the devil had ended all the temptation, he departed from him for a season. Luke 4:2-13.

No person in his right mind will knowingly harm his body. Yet, there comes a time when a person will consent to allowing a physician to amputate certain parts of his body. We each recognize the principle of sacrificing the lesser good for the sake of the larger good. When a person's diseased members of his body endangers the rest of the body's life, the individual will consent to having it removed. 

Jesus referred to this principle in His instructions in Mark 9:43-46. Here is His statement:  43 And if thy hand offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to enter into life maimed, than having two hands to go into hell, into the fire that never shall be quenched: 44 Where their worm dieth not, and the fire is not quenched. 45 And if thy foot offend thee, cut it off: it is better for thee to enter halt into life, than having two feet to be cast into hell, into the fire that never shall be quenched:  46 Where their worm dieth not, and the fire is not quenched.  47 And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out: it is better for thee to enter into the kingdom of God with one eye, than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire: Mk 9:43-46. This lesson is a hard lesson for Christians to learn. We seem to think too much of this world; we forget that everything in it and all of the pleasures which it can offer us are temporal. The pleasures of sin are passing away (Heb. 11:24-25; 1 Jn. 2:15-17).

Whatever enjoyment sin can give me, at the best will last only a short time. This fact should never be forgotten. The strongest warning about avoiding the coming wrath of God, come from Christ himself.  It is Jesus who will sit and the throne in the day of his wrath and judge all men.  Because he already knows the terrible fate awaiting all who reject God, he calls for drastic measures to avoid this fate.  Jesus said lake of fire is so bad, if our eyes caused us to sin, we would be better off gouging our eyes out, than allowing them to cause us to be cast into the lake of fire. 

He said something similar concerning our hand, he said if our hand causes us to sin, we would be better off cutting our hand off, than allowing it to cause us to be cast into the lake of fire.  He then mentioned our feet; he said if our feet was causing us to be cast into the fire, we would be better off cutting them off.   Jesus based this seeming extreme advice, on the fact that, the fires of hell shall never go out. The carnal mind functions according to the dictates of the flesh.

Once we are saved our spiritual man strives to obey God Thus the battle between spirit and flesh will never cease in this life. There will always be one part of us wanting to do that which feels good (but is wrong) and that part which we know is right (but does not always feel good).   Christ tells us, we do have a choice in using the sword, (THE WORD) or not.  If we don't we will never be able to function in true deliverance.

And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.  Matt 5:30. The story of Aron Ralston is a shockingly powerful modern illustration of the dynamics that stand behind this teaching of Christ.  Ralston is the young climber who became trapped in a three foot wide section of the Blue John Canyon in Canyonlands National Park in Utah when an 800 pound boulder shifted, pinning him by his forearm.


After four long days his water ran out. On the sixth day he knew that he would die in the canyon. Help had still not come. So, he committed himself to an extreme resort that, when the story got out, shocked the world and made him an instant celebrity. Ralston cut off his own right arm. Applying a tourniquet just below his elbow, he did the deed with his own knife. No anesthetic; no going back. He then rappelled sixty feet to the canyon floor and hiked out some seven miles before a rescue helicopter spotted him and rushed him to a medical center.

At a press conference, when he was asked what it felt like to cut off his own arm, reporters were shocked by his reply. He said, "My self-amputation was a beautiful experience because it gave me my life back."   As we know, when Christ spoke of cutting off certain bodily members this was symbolic of us cutting off the sinful aspects of our lives. It also tells us that rather than looking our own selves, we must look to God.

Aron Ralston still goes back there, to the place in the Utah mountains where after six days trapped by a boulder, out of food and water and hours from death, he experienced the "epiphany" that saved his life. He was there again yesterday, in part sharing his amazing survival with friends, in part reliving the moment when he realized that by breaking his own arm and then cutting off his pinned right hand and lower forearm, he would beat the odds and probably live. It was, he says, a euphoric moment. "There was no hesitation, no 'should I or shouldn't I?' "

In an interview he said, "Break the bones? oh yeah! Then I pick up the knife and I'm going at it. It's just an hour and five minutes, maybe four, from that time and it was over. I was free. "To me, the amputation is the most beautiful experience I'll ever have in my life because it comes from the contrast of being dead in my grave for six days and (then) having my life back. My sense of euphoria is never more intense than when I am actually in that spot. It brings me to tears to be there . . . the tears of joy." Ralston's story of self-amputation in has become the stuff of legend and is now the subject of an intense self-penned book, Between a Rock and a Hard Place. 

Because of our sinful nature we are also between a rock and a hard place.  We are connected to a fallen nature which is prone to sin, which in turn leads to death. Consider what Paul says: 6 Knowing this, that our old man is crucified with him, that the body of sin might be destroyed, that henceforth we should not serve sin. 7 For he that is dead is freed from sin. 8 Now if we be dead with Christ, we believe that we shall also live with him: 9 Knowing that Christ being raised from the dead dieth no more; death hath no more dominion over him. 10 For in that he died, he died unto sin once: but in that he liveth, he liveth unto God. 11 Likewise reckon ye also yourselves to be dead indeed unto sin, but alive unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord. 12 Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, that ye should obey it in the lusts thereof. Rom 6:6-12. We must make up in our minds that we are going to rely on God alone.  Even to the point of cutting off, or dying to the part of ourselves, which will strives to rely on someone else other than God.

If you want to really see the move of God in your life, you must cut your eyes out. You do this by ceasing to focus on what your flesh wants. And sincerely focusing on applying his word, (his will and way) in your life.  When you begin to do this out of a pure heart, you will see by way of the knowledge of faith, the move of God through the good, the bad, and the very ugly. Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God,  Matt 5:8.  This was Paul's prayer for us,  17 That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give unto you the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of him: 18 The eyes of your understanding being enlightened; that ye may know what is the hope of his calling, and what the riches of the glory of his inheritance in the saints, 19 And what is the exceeding greatness of his power to us-ward who believe, according to the working of his mighty power,   Ephe 1:17-19

If you want to receive what God has for you. You must cut of your hands.  You do this by ceasing to frantically grabbing for the things your flesh wants and your carnal mind thinks it must have.  As you earnestly and honestly seek the things of the kingdom. (By hearing and applying the just mentioned process), you will tangibly began to receive the true riches of the kingdom, inwardly. 3 Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.  *10 Blessed are they which are persecuted for righteousness' sake: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.  Matt 5:3&10.  Paul tells us of the treasures of the kingdom, 17For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost.  Rom 14:17.

If you want to get to the place, that God seeks to lead and guide you to, you must cut off your feet. You do this by ceasing in your carnal efforts to get to where you think you should be positionally in life.  You must apply the word of God, (in a cutting fashion) in every direction you find yourself going, In doing this you will reach the place of life, and life more abundant, 13 Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat: 14 Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it.  Matt 7:13-14.  There is a old song which is not sang much anymore, which applies to these guidelines.  The song ask must Jesus bare the cross alone, and all the world go free.  Christ himself answer this question.  NO there is a cross for everyone, and there's a cross for me.  (compare below, click the next tab, to advance slides). 

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