THE SEXUAL AWAKENING OF THIS GENERATION
A while back this was a very popular commercial jingle used by a company to describe their product. They stated that their product was so delicious, that it had to be sinful. In reality this simple jingle, though amusing to some, actually does reflect the thought processes of most of today’s generation When it comes to pleasure and carnal delights, most of today’s generation tend think that anything that gives sensual pleasure, has to come from Satan.
Many churches are ill prepared to deal with the new sexual landscape, which now confronts today's younger generation. Many ministers refused to teach what the Bible says about the true intensity of our God given sexual drive and its real impact. The apostle Paul had no such hang ups he equated sexual desires as being a “burning” desire. In fact Paul advised that for many, the best way to hold this burning in check was within the bonds of marriage.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn, (with strong sexual desire). 1st Cor 7:9.
For many young people they discover that this is a burning that does not go away, with the old advice of taking a cold shower.
When God set our sex drives in motion, it was not to torture us, or cause us agony or grief, and not just to pro-create but also to bring us pleasure and sexual fulfillment! Our sex drive is neither dirty, shameful, or sinful anymore than eating food or consuming beverages is dirty, shameful, or sinful. Our sex drive is a good thing!
If we were to ask those of this generation who invented sex and bestowed it upon mankind, most would have trouble associating sex with a holy God. The truth of the matter is, sex was not created by the devil, Playboy, Hollywood, HBO, or any one of the many internet porn sites. Sex along with human sexuality was created by the holy God of heaven, where purity reigns.
Today's younger generation find themselves struggling to come to terms with today's radical sexual landscape. while at the same time comprehending their own emerging sexual urges. Young adulthood is the time when our burning desires, feelings, and carnal cravings strike the strongest and we have the least amount of experience in dealing with them. The hormones flowing through our body often causes our emotions to fluctuate between extremes.
Hillary Freeman tells us, “There was a time in times past when the sexual imagery which generations in times past encountered mainly consisted of a few girly magazines which could be purchased from under the counter at the local convenience store. These images were fairly passive, but not anymore. The sexual imagery which now is flowing onto the laptops Iphones of today’s generation is hardcore and depicts abusive sexual acts few of us can even imagine, let alone want to try – and it is available at the click of a mouse in every teenage bedroom.
Today's younger generation find themselves struggling to come to terms with today's radical sexual landscape. while at the same time comprehending their own emerging sexual urges. The over-exposure to a smorgasbord of sexual imagery which this generation is now deluged with only adds more sexual complexities to an already sexually chaotic landscape.
Many of the sexual issues that once were considered taboo to talk about are now blatantly in our face. A refusal on the part of many churches in times past to address these issues has left many church pulpits ill prepared to deal with many of the sexual issues which are now at hand. Long before the radical sexual landscape which this generation now faces became evident, God in His great forethought, already had addressed these issues in His word. Because many churches viewed these items as being off limits or irrelevant, many of these issues were not addressed.
Charge them that are rich in this world, that they be not highminded, nor trust in uncertain riches, but in the living God, who giveth us richly all things to enjoy; 1st Tim 6:17.
Long before God gave the ten commandments and other guidelines that said “thou shalt not”. God’s first instructions to Adam and Eve was, “ENJOY.” When God created Adam and Eve He placed them in the most perfect setting possible. In Eden God placed everything needed for the enjoyment of sexual intercourse to the highest.
In the minds of many, God is viewed as not having the capability or capacity to understand the inner sexual tensions exerted upon them by way of ones personal sex drive. In fact there is a great disassociation by many when it comes to God, and carnal pleasure. Even in many churches believers tend to view God as not even being able to relate to their desires for carnal pleasures, much less than giving mankind the ability to enjoy sexual intercourse.
THE HUMAN SEX DRIVE-- By divine design, the secretion of certain hormones into the bloodstream activates the pubertal stage. These hormones are substances secreted by the sex glands (ovaries and testicles) and the adrenal gland directly into the bloodstream. Not only do these hormones initiate puberty, but they also help regulate our sex drive and sexual behavior.
When our sex drive initially shows up at our door, it does not politely knock on the door. For many of us our sex drive literally kicked the door off the hinges and stormed into our lives.
Gillis Triplett explains, “ Like clockwork, there will come a time in every person's life, when they will experience their sexual awakening. That inevitable day will appear, most likely, without any warning or advance notice. Some may call it: going girl crazy, being aroused, horny, in heat, in lust, boy crazy, turned-on, having the hots for, on-fire, love jones, beside oneself, infatuated, or lovesick.”
Whatever they call it, that day will come and when it does, it will not only affect every fiber of that person's being, it will affect every single facet of their life - spirit, soul, flesh, financial and social. Many struggle to come to terms with these desires, that the Bible describes as a “BURNING.” For many young people they soon realize that these desires don’t go away once they show up and in many cases they only intensify.
There is perhaps no greater item that affects our lives in so many ways, as our sex drive. As Gillis Triplett explains, "Without a doubt, having sex is pure ecstasy on earth. But for some people, their sex drive has been their Achilles heel. It has landed them in a relationship or marriage from hell, in the divorce court, in jail, tagged as a sexual predator, on a gurney in an abortion clinic, or put them into the shameful position of being a carrier of HIV/AIDS or some other sexually transmitted disease. It has caused some to become addicted to porn, with seemingly no way out.
For some women, their sex drive has caused them to have unwanted children. For some men, their sex drive has forced them to grudgingly pay child support to females they sorely despise. Still others, because of their sex drive, have lost their business, ministry, or political office. Some have lost everything... home, marriage, job, career, their children and their sanity. All over their desire to have sex!"
There is no question about it, our sex drive is a powerful force. Was it designed by God to cause us grief and agony, or did He have something else in mind?
As we said earlier, When God set our sex drives in motion, it was not to torture us, or cause us agony or grief, and not just to pro-create but also to bring us pleasure and sexual fulfillment! Our sex drive is neither dirty, shameful, or sinful anymore than eating food or consuming beverages is dirty, shameful, or sinful. Our sex drive is a good thing!
God designed us to be emotional creatures, intellectual creatures, spiritual creatures, and sexual creatures. He also provided ways for each of these distinct needs to be met. The way some religious people act you would think God had nothing much to do with sex, He kind of tolerates it. The truth is GOD INVENTED SEX! It was God's idea. He created the feeling, emotions and even the physical pleasure of sex. He didn't create a man and a woman, leaving the sex part to chance. His creative purpose was in every aspect of mankind's being.
The garden of Eden was the perfect to enjoy fellowship with the divine creator. It was also the most perfect place possible for Adam and every to sexual enjoy each other to the fullest. Everything that they needed to set the right mood was in Eden. They had perfect food, the most romantic environment possible. The sights, the sounds, the aromas, every thing was perfect. And if this was not enough, their nakedness revealed perfectly form male and female physique, that were ascetically pleasing in every way.
Unfortunately, for today's generation the sexual imagery which is being presented today, for the most part, presents a very shallow and one sided concept of us as human beings. Thus the way TV and the internet portrays our sexual interactions with others is out of balance in regards to who we really are. According to Bill Tillman.“ Sexuality is a major part of life, and one of the major shapers of each of our personalities.” But the component which comprises our sexuality is but one of the components which defines who we are as individual human beings.
The vast majority of God’s creatures only exhibit sexual interest during their fertile breeding periods. Sex in the human and animal kingdoms serve the purpose of reproduction, but in virtually all animal species reproduction is the only purpose. We as humans maintain sexual interest and receptiveness even during the infertile periods of our lives.
By God’s design, even when couples are well up in age and far past the time when they can conceive, their sexual interest is still active and healthy. It was God intent from the very beginning that sexual intercourse, be much more than just a means by which to procreate. He designed us in such a way that it would be a source of intense pleasure, even during the time of our golden years.
As most of us who have ever sought to be in a meaningful relationship are aware of, to be in a truly meaningful relationship calls for much more than a sexual relationship. There are other aspects of the totality of who we are, which are just as critical as our sexuality. The foundation that every positive relationship is built on is connectivity in certain critical areas, we list these critical areas as follows:
1. Physical connectivity-- First of all there is the aspect of us which allows us to enter a relationship and in the process develop a physical connectivity. *(This is the sexual aspects). Physical connectivity consist of items which includes anything physical, such as touch, cuddling, hugging, kissing, and sex.
2. Mental Connectivity-- Then there is the mental connectivity which includes communicating and sharing ideas. Thus this is a philosophical aspect of a connection, whereby two individuals come together to mutually make intellectual assessments about life in general.
3. Emotional Connectivity--Then there is emotional connectivity, this connections include the sharing of emotions, including developing feelings for the other person, a sense of intimacy, falling in love.
4. Spiritual Connectivity--- This type of connectivity is prompted in the lives of two individuals who not only value their relationship in the natural, but they mutually place an even greater value on their relationship with God. Therefore regardless of how wonderful their relationship (and subsequent marriage) might be in the natural, they both agree that their greatest allegiance is to God first and to each other second.
It is not uncommon for a young adult to stumble onto hardcore sexual images, with no one around to help stabilize their sexual sensibilities. This has created a great deal of sexual confusion and frustration for many of today's generation.
Today girls really do think they're expected to look like life-sized Barbie dolls: long of limb, large of breast and with no body hair whatsoever. Young men too are beset by insecurities and misapprehensions, fuelled by exposure to porn: A young man in his 20s ask, 'My penis is too small compared to the ones I've seen on the internet, how can I get it enlarged?'
One website which provides advice and information to 16 to 25-year-olds, say they have noticed an alarming increase in the volume of emails, which denotes desperate, sexual concerns and confusion. The operator of this site say they have lost count of the number of young women in their late teens and early 20s, who write in with the same concern.
They say their boyfriend and in many cases their husband, can’t stop watching porn: 'Why does he watch porn so much when he's with me?'; 'How can I ever measure up to the women in porn?'; Why aren't I good enough?‘ Other young people have desperately sought an answer to this troubling question. Does it mean that I’m gay because I get aroused looking at same sex porn?” Up until recently these items would not Have been an issue.
The younger generation of today has to cope with a very volatile mix of raging hormones, and sexual imagery that at times seems to overwhelm their senses and sexual sensibility.This has created a great deal of sexual confusion and frustration for many. A young man who experienced this firsthand wrote the following. I'm 18 years old, and I'm really rather confused about my sexual orientation. I'm something of a porn addict. I started watching at age thirteen. When I was in school I felt myself being attracted to both guys and girls, but primarily guys. The more I view gay porn the more confused I become.
We now have a younger generation who are more and more being confused by deluge of sexual imagery they are now confronted with. And we now have many churches who are totally ill prepared to give viable answers. The over-exposure to a smorgasbord of sexual imagery which many of young people are now deluged with only adds more sexual complexities to an already sexually chaotic landscape.
Young adulthood is a time in which young people are working out who they are and how they will interact with the world around them. It is a critical stage in the development of personal and sexual identity. Young people are more and more turning to the media including, internet pornography at the same time as they undertake this important developmental task.
This exposure to sexual imagery of every description, which now confronts our younger generation often leads to dependent addictive behavior, spiritual emptiness, and a diminished ability to love. Additionally this over exposure of sexual imagery of every description, (and some which defies description) causes a great deal of harm to younger adults by distorting their mental, emotional, and social development.
“It is possible for men and women to experience a form of physical enjoyment and degrees of emotional, psychological, and spiritual fulfillment even in sexual conduct that God considers abhorrent. For this reason, the Bible gives many solemn warnings against appealing to human passion or lust as the basis for our definition of moral sex.
We are told that it’s possible to crave sexual interactions in ways that God never intended, As Dr. Daniel Heimbach explains “Our sex lives are moral only when conducted according to God's standards. When engaged in according to these guidelines, sexual activity is enriching, fulfilling, and eminently blessed.” (the preceding article was presented by, Focus on the Family). It is obvious by the efforts being put forth who label themselves as LGBT, that many today seek to enjoy the pleasure of sex minus any guidelines. (compare below).
According to Dr. Steve Highlander, “Our sexuality is a very powerful part of our lives, physically, emotionally and even spiritually. Because sex is so powerful God had to put boundaries on it to protect people abuse. People tend to think that God disapproves of sex. This isn't true at all. Remember it was His idea in the first place. What God disapproves of is the misuse of sex. Because it is so powerful, physically, mentally and even spiritually it has the power to destroy people as well as create new life. It is this very thing that God wanted to protect us from.
We should keep the following four things in mind as we seek to enjoy the many things God has blessed us with.
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