When God created Adam, God placed Adam in a perfect environment where all of his needs could be met. Yet there was something still missing in the life of Adam. Out of all the creatures God had made, there was no suitable mate found for Adam. Adam had a need for COMPANIONSHIP. Dr. Norman Wright said, "...within each of us is the hunger for contact, acceptance, belonging, intimate exchange, responsiveness, support, love and the touch of tenderness." Thus God declared,, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.“ Gen 2:18. . And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. Gen 2:22. Thus God gave Adam the most precious earthly gift of all, Eve. But God also presents Adam to Eve…Adam is presented to Eve, being the one who would love, respect and cherish her.
From the very beginning God created two distinct individuals, with two distinct roles to walk in. These two roles were not intended by God to compete with each other. It was God's intent that these two roles, MALE AND FEMALE, complete each other. In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth. Gen 1:1. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. Gen 1:27.
We as men must honestly ask do we view our wives as being the precious gift, that God took time to build just for us. We must also ask if we are we willing to treat them as such? Someone once said when it comes to expressing true appreciation to a woman, “There is a big difference between a man who flatters her, and a man who compliments her .... a man who spends money on her, and a man who invests in her .... a man who views her as property, and a man who views her properly ..... a man who lusts after her, and a man who loves her ..... a man who believes he is God's gift to women, and a man who remembers a woman was God's gift to man.“
When the Bible speaks of the headship of the man, there are many women who take offense, and many men who try and take advantage. This should not be, when it comes to the relationship between the mand and woman, the scriptures do not install the husband or wife into the office of “tyrant.” A close examination of these verses clearly shows, that God calls for mutual love and respect on the part of both parties. 22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, *28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. Ephe 5:22-28. From the beginning God established certain basic guidelines, for the maintenance of a orderly society, Much of which is now being rejected.
Our founding fathers though not perfect in adhering to these guidelines sought to apply them in varying degrees. They accepted the fact that: God established himself as our creator. He established two distinct sexes male and female. He established the institution of marriage, and family. He charged men to be both leaders *(not tyrants), and protectors of the family. Not only was the man to lead, but within the bonds of marriage, when it came to the woman, he was to cherish her, to honor her and to love her as he loved himself. God made it clear that violence against the innocent was not acceptable. Many in our society are now rejecting these basic guidelines and now seek to completely do away with them.
As time has passed the line between the roles of males and females, have become so blurred, that we are now faced with this question: WHERE ARE THE REAL MEN?? Where are the men who model for their children what it means to love and to serve and to be courageous? Where are men of common sense, understanding and wisdom? Where are the men who are spiritual leaders of their home? Where are the real men? The Bible highlights the value of manhood and all that comes with it. This includes both perseverance and a willing to be kind, caring and compassionate. With this in mind Paul told the believers to, “13 Watch ye, stand fast in the faith, quit you like men, be strong. 14 Let all your things be done with charity. 1st Cor 16:13-14. We all need someone to emulate, Men show boys what they could become. Today many young men are finding it harder and harder to find positive role models, in regards to dress and conduct. On one hand we have witnessed the feminization of many men, and on the other hand we are seeing the glorification, of the thug, MTV playboy won’t commit, to any women image. It is getting harder and harder in our western culture to find a man who will boldly define himself as such.
Normally when we hear of the birth of a child one of the first questions we ask is, “is it a girl or a boy.” We do so because knowing the sex of the child is usually the first way we seek to connect with them as a person. It is now becoming to take a wait and see attitude, with the thought in mind, that ones physical attributes, don’t really define our true sexuality.
This is such a sexually confusing time for our kids. Can you imagine the confusion of young children who are seeking to come to terms with their sexual identity. In today's social climate, they are being told that there are many other options to the traditional male female labels. Some today disagree with efforts which seek to reinforce a Childs sexuality, based on the child's physical makeup. For example they say that even if a boy has a penis at birth, we should be careful about labeling him as a male until he decides his own sexuality.
The issue of young kids who are not sure of their sexuality, and those who experience strong a strong desire to act out, the opposite of who their physical genitalia says they are is now a hotly debated issue. Some adolescents suffer from "Gender dysphoria” (confusion about what gender they are). To aleve the anxiety of the child some parents are now allowing their child to dress according to their inner feelings. Dr. Kenneth Zucker, is one of the world's leading authorities on gender confusion in children. He says allowing a boy to live as a girl might solve the immediate anxiety of such a child, but it would ignore the larger problem driving such desire.
There is now a call by some that the traditional gender distinctive titles of “he and she,” be dropped. Donna Braquet in a posting on the university’s website, made the case that the school must be welcoming to transgendered people through the use of language. “ It is important to participate in making our campus welcoming and inclusive for all. One way to do that is to use a student’s chosen name and their correct pronouns.” Braquet, who is director of the , The University of Tennessee Knoxville Pride Center, suggested using a variety of gender neutral pronouns instead of traditional pronouns.
“There are dozens of gender-neutral pronouns,” she declared She gave some examples of some of the new gender neutral pronouns, ze, hir, zir, xe, xem and xyr. “These may sound a little funny at first, but only because they are new,” Braquet explained. “The ‘she’ and ‘he’ pronouns would sound strange too if we had been taught ‘ze’ when growing up. Instead of calling roll, ask everyone to provide their name and pronouns,” she wrote. “This ensures you are not singling out transgender or non-binary students.”
Todd Starnes gives us the following example, in regards to the ramifications of this request. “For example, the birth certificate might say that Big Earl is a male. But what if Big Earl identifies as a lady who wants to be called Lawanda? According to the procedures outlined by the folks at the Office of Diversity and Inclusion, the professor is obligated to call Big Earl – Lawanda – or whatever name makes Big Earl feel more included.
MASCULINITY, WHEN THE IMAGE BECOMES BLURRED--Becoming a man is not simply a function of going through puberty. Becoming a man has traditionally been seen as the transition from having the values and attitudes of a boy to acquiring the values and attitudes that we instinctively recognize as manly. This transition requires healthy masculine role models who can guide boys through the rites of passage that turn them into men. Most men in modern society have not had healthy male rites of passage. Today it’s now common place to go into a store where magazines are for sale and be inundated with images of altered masculinity.
Pastor Bill Barnwell states, “There was once an era where a man was supposed to be a man. He looked like a man, he talked like a man and he acted like it. Not so anymore. Today, if you want to be an appealing, attractive male, then you had better feminize yourself. What do women find attractive today? Sissies. Women are CONSTANTLY trying to get men to look more like women. Dye or highlight your hair, be real slim and wear form-fitting clothing, get an earring, get rid of excess body hair, etc”
Cosmetic plastic surgery, once marketed exclusively to women, has found a rapidly growing male clientele. The number of men undergoing liposuction, for instance, quadrupled between 1990 and 2000. A blogger who goes by the name mochadad tells us, “Men were made to be bold, strong, leaders. However, our society has attempted to repress these traits. If you look at the way men (especially dads) are portrayed on TV, you’d think we were all a bunch of irresponsible, befuddled, nincompoops, who can only function with the help of a “smart” female partner, friend, or spouse.
Consequently, many boys are confused and have no idea what it takes to be a real man. They seek inappropriate role models and emulate the bad behavior that they see on a regular basis. It is our duty as men, fathers, and responsible citizens to counter these negative images and raise a new generation of men who are respectful, loving, and willing to contribute to society in a positive way. If we are to achieve this goal, we must start with improving ourselves..” (mochadad.com).
In answer to the question, “WHAT HAPPENED TO REAL MEN”? One person explained it this way. They (real men) died off after hardly no one would respect, date or marry them. Once the rock/ hip-hop culture came in, they truly became as they all but disappeared. They almost reached the point of extinction, when it became apparent that there was a great demand for the metro male, as opposed to a real man. Thus masculinity was out the longer haired in touch with your feminine side, metro male was in. There still are a few good, honest, and strong men left who believes in loving, and honoring a woman. But these are men take the godly assigned roles for male and female seriously. Of course this takes him out of the picture, because of the baggage he brings with him, (God, and the Bible)…. What free thinking fully liberated woman would want him?? The real man, who cared for his family, did not mind working, respected God and others, was killed by video games, drugs, MTV, BET, and a gangster mindset culture. The real men, clean cut, committed and respectful, was passed over by many young ladies, who chose the “bad boys, and thugs” instead of them.
Once real men saw that their numbers were dwindling and the gay movement came in like a flood. Real men realized, that the gay man was given more respect, honor and rights than he, therefore many real men began to view their masculinity as a liability rather than a asset. Therefore they began to hold their peace, camouflage their true identities, and become politically correct. Many men who once would have boldly stood up and proclaimed their maleness, and encouraged young men to do the same, have now, out of fear and intimidation, gone quietly in the night. It used to be easy to be a man. Masculinity was seen as a force for good. There was a time when, young men knew, that they were expected to commit themselves to work, family, and respect, But the climate has changed. As the roles between men and women have merged it's harder for young men to know what being a man is supposed to be.